In 2005, I found myself confined to a hotel room in San Francisco, unable to face the day and feeling physically and mentally drained. Little did I know, it was not the flu that had taken hold of me, but a battle with depression and burnout.
Back then, discussing mental health openly was far from commonplace, making it challenging to seek help or even share my struggles with those around me. It took me a year to regain my strength and nearly a decade to break free from toxic relationships and rediscover self-love.
This experience taught me invaluable lessons about the importance of mental hygiene and the power of compassion, and I want to share those insights with you today.
Your mental hygiene is as important as your physical hygiene: Just as we prioritise our physical well-being by showering daily, we must also nurture our minds regularly. Taking care of our mental health involves activities like practicing mindfulness, spending time in nature, and engaging in self-care routines that rejuvenate and restore our inner balance.
Saying no is an act of self-care: Learning to say no to others doesn't mean we don't care about them—it means we care about ourselves too. Setting boundaries is crucial for protecting our mental and emotional well-being. By respecting our own limits and needs, we can create healthier relationships and avoid overextending ourselves.
Boundaries are here to protect us, not to keep people away: Sometimes, we fear that setting boundaries will push people away or make us appear distant. In reality, healthy boundaries actually enhance our relationships by fostering respect, trust, and understanding. By clearly communicating our boundaries, we create a safe space where we can thrive while maintaining meaningful connections with others.
Embracing imperfection: Perfectionism can be both a driving force for growth or a debilitating state of fear. By embracing imperfection, we free ourselves from the unrealistic expectations we often place on ourselves. Accepting that mistakes and flaws are a natural part of the human experience allows us to learn, grow, and find contentment in our progress.
Recognising and accepting emotions: Emotions are an essential part of being human. Instead of suppressing or ignoring them, we should name, feel, and accept our emotions as they arise. By acknowledging and processing our feelings, we can navigate through them and find healthier ways to cope, leading to emotional well-being and resilience.
The importance of speaking out: Talking openly about mental health is crucial for breaking the stigma surrounding it. If you find it challenging to discuss your struggles with friends or family, remember that there are organizations and professionals who are ready to listen and provide support. Sharing your experiences not only helps you heal but also encourages others to do the same.
You are not alone: Remember that you are not alone in your journey. Many people have faced similar challenges, and seeking support from others who understand can be immensely beneficial. Connecting with support groups, online communities, or mental health organisations can provide a sense of belonging and remind you that there is a supportive network ready to lift you up.
Bouncing back with the right support and environment: Recovery and healing are possible with the right support system and a healthy environment. Surrounding yourself with people who uplift and encourage you can make a significant difference in your mental well-being. Seek-out positive influences and create a nurturing space that fosters your growth and healing.
Embrace your uniqueness and love yourself: Each of us has a unique journey and experiences that shape who we are. Remember that you are deserving of love and compassion, starting with self-love. Embrace your individuality, celebrate your strengths, and show kindness to yourself.
Change is hard, but you don’t have to face it alone.
Back in 2005, I didn’t have the support I needed, and my journey to healing took longer than it should have. That’s why I do this work today—to help others find their happy place faster.
If you’re feeling stuck, know that you’re not alone, and it’s okay to ask for help. With the right support and care, change is possible. Your journey is made of a thousand steps, take that first small step today towards fulfilment.
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